Therapy for Adults with ADHD · California

You’re Already Trying Hard Enough.

If trying harder were the answer, you probably would have solved this by now.

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Therapy isn’t about giving you another system to follow.

You’ve found ways to manage, compensate, remember, organize, catch up, and get things done. Some work. Some don’t. Some take way too much energy.

Therapy isn’t about giving you another system to follow. We start with your actual life—what works, what doesn’t, and what you want to be easier.

Most workplaces, schools, schedules, and everyday systems are built around a particular way of paying attention, organizing information, remembering things, and getting things done. If your brain doesn’t work that way, ordinary life can require a ridiculous amount of effort.

We can help you find ways to function in a world that isn’t always set up for the way your brain works.

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ADHD Looks Different in Different People

There isn’t one ADHD experience.

Some people struggle mostly with attention and organization. Others deal more with impulsivity, restlessness, emotional intensity, or difficulty starting and finishing things. Many people experience some combination.

ADHD is often missed in girls and women, especially when it doesn’t look like the stereotypical image of a hyperactive child. Some people are daydreamers, perfectionists, or high achievers who have learned to hide how much they’re struggling. Others have spent years being treated for anxiety or depression without anyone considering ADHD. Many aren’t diagnosed until adulthood, when the demands of work, relationships, or everyday life become harder to manage.

You may recognize yourself in some of these and not at all in others:

  • Losing track of time or frequently running late
  • Forgetting appointments, deadlines, or everyday tasks
  • Starting projects and struggling to finish them
  • Having trouble starting tasks, even when they’re important
  • Getting intensely focused on something and losing track of everything else
  • Feeling overwhelmed by planning or organizing
  • Creating lists, calendars, apps, or systems that you stop using
  • Interrupting or speaking before you’ve had time to think
  • Feeling restless or needing stimulation
  • Struggling with transitions or changes in plans
  • Experiencing emotions very intensely
  • Being especially sensitive to criticism or rejection
  • Feeling exhausted from constantly trying to keep up
  • Doing extremely well in some areas while struggling with things that seem like they should be easy

You don’t have to relate to every item on this list. ADHD can look very different from one person to another.

It can also change over time. Your responsibilities, environment, relationships, stress, hormones, and the amount of support you have can all affect how ADHD shows up in your life.

Therapy is for you, not the people around you.

People with ADHD get a lot of feedback about how they should be different.

Be on time. Remember things. Keep the house organized. Stop interrupting. Answer your messages. Finish what you started.

Maybe you want to work on some of those things. Maybe some of them aren’t particularly important to you.

ADHD therapy isn’t about making you easier for your partner, your family, your boss, or anyone else to deal with.

That could mean feeling less overwhelmed. Having more energy. Getting through your workday without burning yourself out. Finding ways to get through tasks you hate. Having fewer fights with your partner. Understanding your emotions. Feeling better about yourself. Or deciding that some of the things you’ve spent years trying to fix aren’t actually problems.

You get to decide what you want to work on.

What ADHD Therapy Can Help With

Depending on what matters to you, we might work on:

Daily life

  • Executive functioning and organization
  • Starting and finishing things
  • Time management
  • Work or school difficulties
  • Creating routines you can actually live with

Emotions & relationships

  • Emotional regulation
  • Rejection sensitivity
  • Communication and relationships
  • Burnout
  • Shame and self-criticism

Support & change

  • Understanding patterns that have followed you throughout your life
  • Asking for accommodations or support
  • Changing your environment instead of always trying to change yourself

Some sessions may be very practical. Others may focus more on emotions, relationships, or experiences from your past. Often, we’ll do both.

We’re not looking for the perfect planner or the one system you’ll finally stick to. Sometimes we find a new strategy. Sometimes we change something you already do. Sometimes we change the environment, ask for more support, or make something easier.

And sometimes we decide something isn’t important enough to keep fighting with yourself about.

There isn’t one right way to manage ADHD. We meet you where you are and figure out what actually works for you.

It’s Not Your Fault

Living with ADHD has consequences. That doesn’t mean ADHD is a character flaw.

If you’ve spent years missing deadlines, forgetting things, running late, starting things you don’t finish, or struggling with things other people seem to do easily, you may have gotten some pretty negative messages about yourself.

Lazy. Irresponsible. Disorganized. Difficult. Too sensitive. Unreliable.

At some point, you may have started believing them.

Understanding ADHD doesn’t mean pretending your choices don’t affect other people or that nothing is your responsibility.

It means understanding why something keeps happening so you have a better chance of doing something useful about it.

Frequently asked questions

What If I’m Not Sure I Have ADHD?

That’s fine.

You don’t need to arrive with a diagnosis.

We can talk about what you’re experiencing and whether ADHD might help explain some of it. We can also talk about whether getting a formal evaluation would be useful.

I’m Already Taking Medication. Can Therapy Still Help?

Yes.

Medication can be an important part of ADHD treatment, but it doesn’t necessarily address everything.

You may still struggle with organization, emotional regulation, relationships, shame, burnout, or patterns you developed over years of living with ADHD.

Therapy and medication do different things, and many people find both helpful.

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Your Life Doesn’t Have to Be This Hard

You don’t need to become a different person. You don’t need to become neurotypical. And you don’t need to keep assuming that if something is difficult, you must be doing it wrong. We can help you understand what you need, make daily life more manageable, and find ways to function in a world that wasn’t necessarily designed with your brain in mind. Not so you can become better at meeting everyone else’s expectations. So you can have a life that works better for you.

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Let’s find the right fit.

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Our Specialists

Lindsay Rogozen-Feuer and Amy Ferrasci work with neurodivergent clients. Our approach is neurodiversity-affirming and LGBTQ+ affirming, and begins with what is happening in your life and what you want to be different.

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